"The Being Single Blues": Feeling Down Because You are Not in a Relationship?

3 Things You Must Know if You Have The Being Single Blues

Being Single is not easy. Many people are unhappy being without a life partner. If you are unhappy because you are single, you have what I call the "Being Single Blues".

You may have the Being Single Blues if:

• You feel ashamed or embarrassed that you are single; most of your friends are married.

• You end up being the third wheel much of the time or you hear a lot about how good it is to be married or “with someone”.

• You have given up on the dating scene, convinced that you will never find your life partner.

• You have had some bad experiences in relationships and just don’t want to risk it.

• You are shy and have a hard time meeting new people.

• You may feel lonely, even if you have lots of friends.

This does not have to be a permanent state. I am here to tell you that you can be happy being single!

If you have the Being Single Blues, here are three things to remember:

You can learn to be happy without a romance in your life.
This is really an old cliché; You must love yourself before you can love anyone else and all that. This also means that, to be happy in a relationship, you need to be a happy single. Enjoy being single. Use this time to do all the things that you want to do. Spend time with yourself, and be available, open to finding a life partner, with clarity and conscious understanding your vision in relationships and in life. Get a good understanding of your wants, needs, and requirements. It is possible to learn to enjoy being free to do what you want, to work on yourself and grow, and to make life choices for yourself.

You are not alone, there are lots of people in the same boat.
There are lots of single people all over the place, some also struggling with the Being Single Blues as well. In fact there are something like 113 million singles in the US, and you can bet that there are a lot locally, maybe just down the street. Finding them is not always easy, and if they are not out their looking themselves, you may not find your ideal partner, even if he or she is right under your nose. But they are out there. You may have to be patient and look in the right places.

Develop a good social network.
Having a good support system is the key to being a happy single. If you are isolated singles set themselves up for relationship failure. A support community can meet your social and emotional needs while you are single, and even help you find your life partner by introducing you to prospective partners. We as a society have lost the art of community, we have moved away from our families, and often have friends that are far away. Building a network of close, relationships requires time, effort, and intention. This is also important for anyone in a relationship with a life partner. No single relationship can supply all of your needs.

For more information on dealing with the Being Single Blues, check out The 10 Principles of Conscious Dating.